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Engagement Rings: to customize or not to customize…AFTER the proposal

Engagement Rings customize AFTER the proposal wedding

Before we post our latest wedding video (hopefully tomorrow evening!), I wanted to share an ‘engagement ring’ issue I’ve been having over the last couple of months. I thought about writing this post today because I just recently picked up my new customized ring.  And yes, the decision to customize came, AFTER the proposal.

Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE my original ring – it was one of the two rings I was looking at before the engagement when I had sent my sisters pictures (who then sent it to Henry haha!). Anyways, we went back to the jeweller with the intention to just look at wedding bands, but out of curiosity, I asked to look at my other original choice. It was another Tacori inspired setting/design – love their stuff – and when I put it on my finger, it just felt right! I’m a chunky jewellery type of person, so the new setting just suited my hand and style better. Here are a few things I had to consider which I’m sure others will too if they are in a similar situation:

OFFENDING MY FUTURE HUBBY: This was the biggy and what I was a bit nervous about! But luckily for me, it was actually a non-issue. Henry said that from the very start, his plan was to propose with a ring that I could customize afterwards if I wanted to.  I’m very particular when it comes to style and he will be the first to tell you that he’s not!  His main priority was making sure I had a ring that I would love til the end of time!  I totally understand though if some other guys might be offended if their intentions were not the same as Henry before the engagement – so I guess this is something to discuss with your partner after the ring is placed on your finger.  Touchy subject for sure, but hopefully communication is open enough to say what you feel…I guess, as long as you approach it in the right way ladies!

IS IT POSSIBLE: For us it was, because Henry started off with an AMAZING jeweller. Aziz from Josephine’s Jewellery Inc. was recommended to Henry by my sister’s hubby and I’m so thankful Henry decided to go with him.  They are extremely accommodating and their main goal is to make sure you get your ultimate dream ring.  He told Henry straight from the beginning that I could always come back to customize if I needed to.  They can do anything! You have a specific ring/style/design/setting you like? Bring him a photo and it’s possible (they are located on Yonge street across from the Eaton Centre).  Plus they do an excellent job! I honestly can’t stop staring at my ring – the detail is amazing.  One main thing that Henry really liked about Aziz is that he didn’t ever try to upsell him on anything.  He made sure he worked within the budget, and just told him the honest truth about all things diamonds!

ATTACHMENT AND SENTIMENT:  I was so torn! I became so attached to my original ring because I was already wearing it for a month!! Yes, a month!  I know it sounds very silly and ridiculous but I felt bad giving away the old ring for the new one.  It was the one that Henry proposed with and purchased on his own. The decision was easier though because of Hen’s encouragement, but it was still tough!

FACEBOOK: You know these days, once you post things on Facebook, it makes things official? Can you believe the first thing that popped up in my mind when changing my ring was, “I’ve already posted a picture of my original ring on Facebook! I can’t change it now!” Seriously?! I’m such a nutter.

OTHER OPINIONS:  At the end of the day, I know what my style is and what suits me best. I’m sure some people would prefer the original ring over the new one, and say, “what were you thinking?!” but I had to go with my gut. I was dreaming about the new ring for goodness sakes! I’m crazy! Do what’s best for you – looks are subjective!

What do you guys think? Is it bad taste to change a ring after being proposed to? Would you customize if you didn’t particularly like the ring you were given? I’m not expecting too many comments here – we don’t want to offend any hubbies LOL!

Until the next post,
Joanie x